Jaynel Jones
3 min readDec 10, 2020

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Inner healing is a relatively new term for an old practice that literally means to heal from the inside out. We’ve become a society that is accustomed to putting on masks and facades, all the meanwhile we’re covering up who we really are. Another downfall to ignoring inner healing is living life and handling all that comes with it from a blocked perspective. I’m sure you’ve heard the phrase “hurt people hurt people” and this is particularly true when it comes to living an unhealed life.

If you’ve questioned how to begin the inner healing process, then keep reading for my five practical, yet powerful, steps to starting your journey toward thriving instead of merely surviving.

5 Steps to Starting Inner Healing

As with anything new, there may be sort of a learning curve. Some people find it awkward or even resistant to go where I’d like to take you. But I promise if you go where I’m saying, you’ll begin to understand why inner healing is absolutely necessary.

Step 1: Acknowledge experiences that caused you pain from your childhood.

It’s safe to say that 100% of what happened to you as a child still affects you right now today, whether positively or negatively. For the undealt hurt and pain, I’m willing to bet it plays a major role in the decisions you make, how you react to things, and the thoughts that formulate when triggered. This is the longest part of the process and one that can be considered an ongoing one. But it must start somewhere. So, begin to acknowledge things that happened in your past that could be hindering you right now today.

Step 2: Listen to the feelings that arise.

Once you start thinking about your past, you’ll probably notice familiar feelings rising up that you’ve probably suppressed or tried to brush off. It’s time to face them, feel them, and listen to what they have to say. If a past experience caused you to feel anger and bitter, revisit what caused it. Listen to your feelings and allow yourself to feel them. Almost everyone I talk to can agree that they’ve felt some level of abandonment, insecurity, vulnerability, guilt, shame, or anxiety. They also agree that those same emotions can be triggered by something in their life today. Working through it means validating the experiences and feelings felt.

Step 3: Journal through the process.

At this point it’s time to release the negative feelings from childhood so inner healing can truly begin to take place. Some people find that journaling through the process helps them to get it all out. Others prefer to write letters to their inner child and walk themselves back through the experiences, but this time with forgiveness, joy, and peace in the heart. Regardless of which avenue you want to take, it’s important to do something that helps you get the negative out.

Step 4: Meditate.

This process seems like something that should happen over night, but it won’t - especially if you’ve done a good job of burying your past pretty deep. You can begin to deal with something only for something else to trigger you and you realize there are still some unresolved things. Getting into the habit of meditating can help you approach the inner healing process from a place of clarity. Mke time to quiet yourself and listen to what your subconscious is saying. As something comes up, go back through the cycle again.

Step 5: Seek accountability.

Whether you choose a therapist, coach, mentor, or the like, having accountability can help alleviate some of the stress and overwhelm that often comes with this process. Having someone you can open up to, seek wise counsel from, and have cheer you on can do wonders for your inner healing. I highly recommend linking arms https://view.flodesk.com/pages/5f9878f647b434e2585a9dec with someone you trust and allow them to walk this journey with you.

Overall, you owe it to yourself to live a thriving life, one that is free from past negative hurts, shame, and guilt. It’s time to be your authentic self without all the strings attached. The time is now. You deserve it!

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